Veteran Nollywood actor, Richard Mofe-Damijo popularly called RMD says it is tough for people in showbiz like actors and musicians to stay faithful in marriage.
Sixty-two-year-old Mofe-Damijo, who featured on the latest Teju Babyface Deep Dive Podcast, submitted that women are often attracted to male entertainers because of their profession.
He said, “It’s very hard for entertainers to be faithful in marriage because of the line of work that we are in. Every one of us that is married is the target. Look at how women are, how can you escape it? Women are like Delilah; they are like Jezebel; they prepare.
“The only way you can perpetrate the real intentions of the enemy is to constantly aim at the image of God or the symbol of authority in any home, you shot it down. It’s like being a general on the battlefield. You drop him, and then the battalion scatters. Their mission is to take down the head of the family.
“So, it’s very difficult to be faithful. You have to get to the point where your wife understands what she is up against as well because if your wife is not up to speed on what she is up against, then your flank would be left open, so, it’s important for harmony to exist between a husband and wife. I saw TD Jakes speak about this and I was so impressed,” he said.
Speaking further, RMD narrated his relationship with his wife, saying, “The first time I made the biggest money in my life, when my manager brought the cheque to me, I held it, I gave it back to him and I asked him to pay it into my wife’s account.
“When she saw the money, she said, ‘You paid money into my account, what’s it for? Is for the children or what? I told her it was for her. She said, ‘What do you want me to do with it? I said, it’s for you, because I have to be able to show to her that, that was the biggest money I have ever earned in my life. I could buy a car, I could go on holidays and I just said, this is the person that made it possible. So I gave it to her, she said thank you.
“I have done some crazy shits, but because she also knows that I am remorseful and that I am a work in progress. If your wife doesn’t feel that you are also taking responsibility in the partnership, she wouldn’t be the woman you want.
“I constantly pray that I am the man that she wants and she used to say something to me before we got married that, ‘You know the biggest problem I have, I don’t think I deserve to marry you.
“I was really afraid of marrying her because she was too nice and I kept saying to her that I hope she won’t change after I marry her and she said NO. So, even at the lowest point in my life when I look at her and I say I am so sorry and she says, ‘Do I have somewhere I am going?’ and that doesn’t cause me to want to sin more or to want to do shit more but it builds more responsibility for me to be able to slow down.”
When asked whether it gets easier now that he is older, RMD said, “Yes, it’s easier. You know how I like my Friday nights, so if I am at home certain Fridays, she looks at me and says, ‘What happened to you, no cigarette today, no jazz music today? Go and join your friends, I want to sleep; so its easier.”
Born on July 1961, the Nigerian actor, writer, producer, lawyer, and former journalist was also a former Commissioner for Culture and Tourism in Delta State in 2009. He married a journalist/ publisher and talk show host, May Ellen ‘MEE’ Ezekiel.
After her death in 1996, he married TV personality Jumobi Adegbesan, who later left TV presenting for the corporate world. He has five children: two with his current wife and three from his previous relationship.
