Dating and relationship coach, Flavian Mwasi, asked this question on Quora, and these are the responses:
Perception
We’ve all heard about it. Perception sells. What do you think of Hollywood movie stars? Do you think they’re all as beautiful or attractive as you perceive them? Not a chance!
You probably have better looks than half of them. However, they can hire expensive makeup artists to portray an attractive and beautiful decoy of who they really are to hide their true faces. Inside, they’re unhappy, dull, and miserable shadows of themselves. I wish you could see them when they’re not on the set.
Happiness
Let’s be honest. Guys love a happy girl who’s average-looking than they love a beautiful girl who’s rude and angry.
No one wants to go near her or associate with her. Happiness tends to camouflage all the other the bad features that a girl might have.
Honesty
Yes, this one is obvious, isn’t it?
Everybody loves an honest person. You don’t want someone who keeps on lying to you over and over. I mean, nobody does, isn’t it?
Trust
Another big one. Who wants somebody who cannot be trusted? I mean, they can steal from you. People hate thieves because they snatch away what you’ve worked hard for. Thieves hate work. That’s why they’re hated.
Respect
This one goes far and guys love it. Initially, life was designed such that females respected males. This wasn’t because females were biologically the weaker sex, but because males were designed to protect the females.
However, as life evolved, females started becoming stronger than males in terms of social and economic status.
Then males started losing control and respect as females’ earning power increased over time.
Faithfulness
People like to say they cheat because they’ve been cheated on. Yes, and that’s a compelling reason to cheat, but does it solve the problem or does it drive couples further apart?
Why don’t you have a little patience and the truth will come out?
Most of the times girls raise suspicion out of nothing, just bacause they’ve heard a rumour from a jealous rival who wants to take over.
Guys hate it when they’re accused for nothing, and I hope girls feel the same.
Smartness
A smart girl just blows the guys away.
Why?
Because they know how to think and come up with solutions. Ok, girls don’t have the physical strength of a man, but when they’re smart they really look stronger than the guys, and guys tend to find them more attractive.
Support
Guys love a girl who can support them achieve their goals, raise a family, or simply fulfill their dreams.
In turn, guys love girls who help them achieve their goals, so they tend to reciprocate by helping girls achieve theirs. That’s what a healthy relationship is all about.
In a big way, a girl who doesn’t depend very much on her man is perceived as independent, and therefore more preferred.
A girl who supports her man is respected and perceived by her man as a pillar and symbol of strength, and therefore, loved by her man.
Character
Character attracts everybody, not just guys. That’s because character portrays consistence, and consistence portrays reliability and responsibility.
Why do you think some people are given positions of leadership?
Guys feel proud when they see this in a girl.
They feel they chose the right person. They feel society respects them because of their women.
Conclusion
Ok, you’ll never find a flawless girl. Or a guy for that matter. We’re all human and human beings have plenty of flaws. Guys understand this. But, a girl who is trying to improve herself looks far more attractive to a guy than the one that’s doing nothing about it. Guys love this in a girl too.
You can state your preference in the comments section!
